Posted: Mar 03, 2013 10:00 PM
 
If expecting one baby was great, wouldn't two be even better? When you discover that you’re expecting twins, your whole perspective on parenthood changes. Double the work, double the diapers and half the sleep is what you’ll expect... but is that accurate? We spoke to some experienced mothers of twins who shared some awesome advice for the mother-of-twins-to-be.

Who hasn't fantasized about having twins? It seems like winning the baby lottery — until you start to think about the logistics of your daily life. Some of our favorite mothers of twins shared their honest (and funny) advice for moms expecting twins.

All about the schedule

Create a schedule and then live and die by it.

Natalie is the writer behind the popular blog Mommy of a Monster and Twins. She already had a 2-year-old son when she discovered she was expecting twins (who are now 3 years old). "If you want to know what I'd say to a mom expecting twins, whether she's a first time mom or a mom who has a little one running around already, my advice would be this: You must live and die by the schedule," says Natalie. "You have to get twins on a feeding/wake time/sleeping schedule and never, ever deviate from it. Also, you need to prepare yourself to rarely (if ever) leave the house the first year without backup," she admits. "I think I went to my sister's house and my mom's house, and that was pretty much it. Create a schedule and then live and die by it," she adds. "I don't even know how I made it through the first year!"

Not two of a kind

Some days it will seem as if the stars aligned and parenting comes easily and others... well, just get some wine ready for those days.

Kirsten blogs about her twins at The Kir Corner, which is a lovely place to poke around. "First, congratulations on your news of a dynamic duo! My best advice is to tell you that I don't have any real advice," Kir admits. "Some days it will seem as if the stars aligned and parenting comes easily and others... well, just get some wine ready for those days. Your twins are two different human beings, even when they are wearing matching clothes, even on odd days of the week, even when you'd like them to have the same tantrum or reach the same milestones," she shares. "So just remember that and have fun with your babies, they really do grow up faster than you can imagine."

Get help

You'll be too busy to cook and it's so important to eat -- especially if you're nursing too like me.

Suzanne blogs at Suz's Treats and shares lots of super cute pictures and stories about her now 8-month-old twins. Suzanne says, "My first thought is to sleep now while you can! Recruit hands-on helpful people to stay with you for the first couple months... so they can clean, cook, grocery shop and hold babies while you sleep or vice versa." She adds that meals will be a huge help for the new mother of twins. "Freeze make-ahead meals and/or have someone set up a mealtrain.com page for you. You'll be too busy to cook and it's so important to eat — especially if you're nursing too, like me."

Find the humor

Another mother of twins... told me not to look in the mirror for the first few weeks. That was good advice.

Kirsten's blog The Norwindians has a little bit of everything. She has 10-year-old twin daughters and a younger son. "I always get asked what the hardest part of having twins is and this is my answer: everything," she shares. "No, really it's a snap. It's incredibly easy to fit two highchairs in your kitchen and carrying around two baby carriers is great for the biceps. I'm totally lying," Kirsten admits. "It's a little difficult. My husband went on a business trip when my twins were about a month old. When he came back I couldn't decide what to do first, change my underwear or brush my teeth." She shares advice from another twin mom. "There was another mother of twins at my baby shower and she told me not to look in the mirror for the first few weeks. That was good advice." Kirsten adds, "Seriously though, my twins are 10 now and parenting twins is such a unique experience. I always need to remind myself that even though they share a birthday, they are two different people. It's hard to fight the tendency to treat them as a set."

Tell us^ What advice do you have about raising twins? Share with us in the comments.

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