Nanny guilt? What's that? Those are two words that simply aren't in my vocabulary. Maybe that's because I'm a self-proclaimed selfish mom who looks forward to kissing my daughter goodbye and going to work every day — even if it is only two floors up to my home office.

Mom guilt, nanny guilt: What's the point?

I just don't see the point in feeling guilty about not doing enough as a mother. Even though I agree that I could always be doing more — but don't we all? Not only do I consider it a waste of time (that I don't have anyway) to dwell on my shortcomings in the motherhood department (because, again, they do exist) but it's also not going to do me — or my daughter or her nanny — any good to second-guess myself.

Of course there are challenges when you work from home

I've worked out of my home and had a nanny care for my 2-year-old daughter since she was 10 months old. And of course this does come with challenges. I can hear my daughter cry when she's upset and feel the urge to climb down from my loft and rescue her. I am aware when she's giggling with excitement and have to suppress my desire to find out what's so funny. And then there are the days when she doesn't feel well and I've entrusted someone else to nurse her back to health. But I cannot feel bad about not being there in those moments, because the truth is, there are so many amazing slivers of time that I do have with her... when I'm completely 100 percent focused on her.

I tell my toddler that "mommy is going to work" because I want her to know that I have a career — and one that I'm proud of.

I've made the choice to "go to work" and be absent from my daughter from the time the nanny arrives until she leaves. I tell my toddler that "mommy is going to work" because I want her to know that I have a career — and one that I'm proud of. At first, this was hard for her to separate from me, knowing I was somewhere in the house and not with her, but eventually she got to the place where she'd literally push me up the stairs to go work when the nanny arrived. The day she first did that was one of the best days of my life! You'd think I would've been sad that she wanted me to go, but instead I took it as a compliment. She was happy with the choice I'd made in her childcare provider and maybe even somewhere in her subconscious, happy that I was going to do something I loved.

I love what I do and I want my daughter to see that

Lisa and HarperI love being a writer and author. I find incredible joy in sitting in front of this laptop and sharing my stories. And although my daughter doesn't yet understand what I do when I go to work, as soon as she can comprehend, we will talk about it. I want her to learn that she can follow her passion and be anything she wants to be in her life. She can make choices that feel right for her and ultimately her family. I think that's really the crux of this whole mom guilt dilemma — finding your own personal place of acceptance. I can't pay attention to the looks I receive when I tell people that I have someone in my home caring for my child while I'm there (gasp, as if!). I can't worry about what another mom would do. I can only do what feels right to me in my mommy gut.

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