If you Google "Selma Blair" right now, you will find a list of "news" about her, all involving places she has breastfed her son in public. Most recently, the internet is afire with stories about her "radical" decision to nurse her toddler in a "very public" place without a cover. First of all, how is this news? Secondly, Ms. Blair is my new hero.

Just for fun (or actually, if you want to get really depressed), do an internet search right now for "Selma Blair." If you really want to have fun, do a search for "Selma Blair breastfeeding." Then, enjoy the list of articles:

The articles above are just a couple of examples. There are many, many more. The worst, most insane "coverage" is by the idiotic, purposely incendiary celebrity gossip website TMZ ("Selma Blair — Very Public Breastfeeding"), which summarized its stupidity in the first sentence:

"Selma Blair is mixing fun bags with shopping bags — the former Anger Management star was unabashedly breastfeeding in plain sight at one of the biggest shopping spots in Los Angeles like it was no big deal."

Clearly the geniuses who wrote that sentence were attempting to incite rage, fully aware of the controversy attracting internet traffic, but the comment thread beneath the article reinforced TMZ's ignorance and took it to new levels of please-excuse-me-while-I-weep-for-the-future-of-humanity. (I can't repeat the stuff here. It's too awful, but you can check it out for five seconds and see what I mean.)

Again?

Some of you are probably reading this and thinking: "Really? Again? Again on the public breastfeeding thing?"

Until women can breastfeed how they want, when they want, wherever they want and nobody cares, I'll keep writing about it.

To which I respond: Yes. Again. As long as the idiots keep making this news, I will keep calling them out on it. And until women can breastfeed how they want, when they want, wherever they want and nobody cares, I'll keep writing about it.

I may never see it in my lifetime, but I'll do everything I can to normalize breastfeeding for my kids and theirs.

I will keep writing because how is it news that a woman feeds her child in public?

How is it news in a country with breasts plastered all over the internet, billboards, magazines and television that she chose to do so "without a cover?" (Because clearly we don't have a problem with breast flesh being exposed. Our "problem" is with breasts being exposed for their biological purpose rather than as sexual objects.)

How is it news that she nurses a toddler?

And please save me from the "OMG it's so crazy what these nut job attachment parenting types are doing! Nursing a baby until 2? Insane! Disgusting! Nobody does that!"

Allow me to share with you why you sound like an uneducated, myopic, ethnocentric boob (sorry, couldn't help myself) when you flip out over a woman nursing a toddler, claiming it's some newfangled weirdness of hippies: Traditional cultures have almost universally breastfed into toddlerhood (2 to 3 years old) and every major medical organization recommends exclusive breastfeeding up to 6 months, and continued breastfeeding as long as the mother and baby want. The benefits of nursing are shown to continue into toddlerhood and as long as breastfeeding continues.

So it's not "new" at all. You know what's "new?" Breastfeeding your baby until 6 months and promptly cutting him off because you don't want to make him too "dependent!"

I'm sick of it too

But you know I'll tell you the truth, I'm sick of all the talking too. I'm sick of explaining how the demand that women "cover up" is a misogynistic request that caters to the sexualization of the female body, making it my fault that my body has been sexualized to the point that society grows immensely uncomfortable when I use my body for non-sexual purposes.

That society demands that I internalize that misogyny and cater to it. And if I don't, I'm "exposing myself" in shameful ways. Wow.

It's neither my fault nor my problem that society has sexualized my breasts. It is neither my fault nor my problem that you have not evolved past that mentality, that you are incapable of recognizing the insanity of exposed breasts everywhere while nursing women are told they're "inappropriate" or "exposing themselves."

I'm tired of talking about the hypocrisy of calling breastfeeding a 'private act' like going to the bathroom, when breastfeeding is eating. Is eating your lunch 'private?' Is bottle-feeding private?

I'm tired of talking about the hypocrisy of calling breastfeeding a "private act" like going to the bathroom, when breastfeeding is eating. Is eating your lunch "private?" Is bottle-feeding private?

No, exactly. That's my point.

I'm tired of talking about all this. In fact, I'm so tired of talking about it that I fully support no more talking. I support women learning their rights and standing up for them. I support nursing women pissing people off. I support women doing what they want. You have a right to breastfeed wherever and however you please, with or without a cover. Read the laws for your state and stand up for them.

I support no more talking, just more nursing. Do it everywhere. Do it without shame. Tell them to call the police if they want you to move or "cover up." In most states, the police are on your side, because the law is on your side.

And so I support Selma Blair, and if I could, I'd give her a high five and a big, sincere hug. She's doing what she can to normalize breastfeeding. She knew the media would eat her alive for nursing a toddler in public (uncovered! Wow! Shocking!), and she did it anyway. She's using her fame to be an instrument of good, and for that, she's something of a hero to me.

It's a sad day when nursing a child becomes national news, but the only way to change that day is to nurse so many children in public people just don't care anymore.

Thanks, Ms. Blair, for helping carve the path to that day.

More on breastfeeding

Why breastfeeding a 3-year-old rocks
The danger in "nurse discreetly"
Please, nurse your baby in public

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