My teen may not always listen to me when I talk to him, but when we text we laugh, learn and love.

OMG, seriously my teen and I are BFFs when it comes to texting. Even if we're not seeing eye-to-eye at home (um, like every day) when we text each other we crack jokes, give each other hell — in a fun, mom and son way — and (gasp!) he actually listens to me.

Texting is a great way to communicate

Texting with my teen goes beyond the basics of keeping in touch after school or when he's at work or hanging out with friends. We text and respond to each other quickly and respectfully. I don't think texting should replace verbal or especially in-person communication, but it sure helps us communicate without fighting. It truly helps our relationship.

Texting, not arguing

Here's the thing — I love my teen and know he loves me — although lately, he doesn't show it much during our (face-to-face) conversations.

My "Good morning!" is greeted with a grunt.

Really? Dude, we just woke up. I couldn't possibly have pissed you off yet.

I ask him, "How was school today?" He answers, "God! Can't you stay out of my life? I'm 15!"

Answers like this frustrate me to no end, but came in handy once when later he texted me this:

"What's for dinner?"

My response? "God! Why can't you stay out of my life? I'm 40!"

We laughed about it later — in person.

Texting my teen is something I really enjoy — a way to keep in touch, keep him safe and keep us laughing, which in my opinion every family needs to do.

Texting is sarcasm and humor

Near the end of a family vacation when there was, well, a little too much family togetherness, he texted me:

"BTW I can't take this family anymore please sell me on eBay or just auction me on Quibids for a lower price IDC."

When I texted back "ROTFLMAO," he responded with a "?"

Yes, I texted back the definition — it's a tiny bit inappropriate, but WTH — along with a little "But I thought you knew everything" dig.

Texting my teen is something I really enjoy — a way to keep in touch, keep him safe and keep us laughing which in my opinion every family needs to do.

Texting is love

Even if he doesn't say it much in person, once in a while my teen will text my favorite thing to hear from him:

"I love you."

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