The University of Melbourne found that children of same-sex parents are healthier than children of heterosexual relationships, and it's only "stigma" that threatens them.
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The University of Melbourne conducted a study examining the "health and wellbeing" of 500 children with "same-sex attracted parents" (source). Of the 315 families, 80 percent were female parents and 18 percent were male parents (source).

Their research found that "children in same-sex parent families scored roughly six percent higher than the general population on measures of general health and family cohesion" (source). Dr. Simon Crouch from the Jack Brockhoff Child Health and Wellbeing Program, Centre for Health Equity at the University of Melbourne explains: "It appears that same-sex parent families get along well and this has a positive impact on health" (source).

He also states: "We know that same-sex attracted parents are more likely to share child care and work responsibilities more equitably than heterosexual parent families, based more on skills rather than gender roles. This appears to be contributing to a more harmonious household and having a positive impact on child health" (source).

In other words, children of same-sex parents are thriving.

Wait a second. Are they saying equitable roles not based on archaic gender definitions are good for a family? I'm shocked. (That was sarcasm.)

The study also found that in the areas of "temperament and mood, behavior, mental health, emotional role and self-esteem" the children of same-sex parents scored "the same as children from the general population" (source). In other words, children of same-sex parents are thriving.

The study found, however, that these children experience varying levels of "stigma due to their parents' sexual orientation, impacting their mental and emotional wellbeing in the future" (source). This stigma may be "subtle, such as letters home from school addressed to Mr and Mrs… Or it can be overt and very harmful, in the form of bullying and abuse at school... What we have found is that the more stigma these families experience the greater the impact on the social and emotional wellbeing of children" (source).

So basically, it's other people freaking out about same-sex parents that damages kids with same-sex parents. Nice.


When I read about this study, my first thought was, "Why is this news?" Why do we need a "study" to confirm that children will thrive with parents of the same sex? This seems rather obvious, don't you think? I mean they are just as likely to thrive as children of heterosexual parents, right?

Children of same-sex parents do not suffer in comparison to those of heterosexual parents.

But then I remembered that organizations like the "Family Research Council" exist, publishing documents like this one, highlighting the death and destruction (sarcasm font) that will result from gay marriage. Though partly (vastly) illogical (e.g., gay marriage will result in fewer marriages, polygamy and fewer children — what?), they cite studies that found the reverse of the University of Melbourne study; namely, that children of same-sex parents do not suffer in comparison to those of heterosexual parents.

We all know there's a "study" to prove whatever it is we want to find. We all know the data and results can be interpreted, skewed and read in a million different ways resulting in a million different outcomes. Certain pieces of data can be silently omitted, resulting in a twisted conclusion that nobody ever notices.

Will it change anything?

And in my opinion, one of the most irritating habits of humans on the interwebz is what I like to call the "Here's a new study supporting my argument therefore you are all wrong always and I am totally right and therefore I will throw this study in your face even though I've done no actual research beyond this one study." Wow. That was verbose. But you get it, right? One study doesn't "prove" anything. It's a single study. Its purpose is to contribute to the field, to the larger body of knowledge. A single study is not the "final word" on anything (though my Facebook thread would tell you differently).

My point here is that studies like this mean a ton and nothing at all, simultaneously.

So my point here is that studies like this mean a ton and nothing at all, simultaneously. On the one hand, it's really important that psychologists and sociologists study same-sex parents and their children because maybe it will help open the mind of somebody who is sure gay marriage will set humanity aflame. On the other hand, what are the chances of a person like that actually opening their mind to anything? I mean there's a lot of hatred and ignorance and bigotry (tinged with a hint of religion) backing that game.

Go read the comments on this article about this study. And see what I mean.

Maybe I sound a little skeptical, negative, cynical. Well, that's because I am. Because I don't understand why we need these studies in the first place. I don't understand why we're constantly trying to prove that people of the same sex who love each other and build a family together are as good and right and healthy and wholesome as any old hetero family.

Why? Because that which makes a family good and right and healthy and wholesome has nothing to do with the sex or gender of the parental unit. It has to do with maturity, love, respect, loyalty and probably a few socio-economic factors. It has to do with honesty and work and support for one another.

Within the family, and beyond.

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