Posted: Mar 19, 2013 11:00 AM
 
If you find yourself feeling too stressed for sex, a few tips and the right frame of mind will help you shake the weight of the world off your shoulders and settle in for some one-on-one.

Why moms are often too stressed for sex

Moms notoriously overcommit and overschedule, leaving very little room for the time and energy needed to maintain an active sex life. According to Kristen Brown, stress relief expert and author of The Happy Hour Effect: 12 Secrets to Maximize Life and Minimize Stress, "When you fill your days up with to-do lists, tasks and events, you feel drained at the end of the day. Ensure that you're honoring the human need for intimacy by giving yourself at least one day a week when you purposely lighten-up your schedule and make room for sex."

Tip #1^ Free your to-do list of things that matter the least

Schedule it on your smartphone and send a calendar alert with a love note to your spouse on his phone, letting him know you two have an important appointment to keep.

Brown recommends that women start with reviewing their to-do list and that they get rid of anything that is only on there to keep up with the Joneses. "If you are doing things for the sake of others that doesn't lead to improved health, happiness or safety for you and your family, then get it off your list," she says. While you're scrubbing your to-do list, make sure you pencil in time for intimacy. Better yet, schedule it on your smartphone and send a calendar alert with a love note to your spouse on his phone, letting him know you two have an important appointment to keep!

Tip #2^Bring sexy back

Find ways to make yourself feel sexy. Kirsten reminds us that when we are busy and crazy, we often take less time to primp, dress up, put on makeup or even shower. It's difficult to feel confident or attractive when you neglect yourself, so fit in workouts, get your primp on, even put on a sexy little outfit on before bed. The confidence you'll gain from feeling good about yourself will help you get in the mood and add a little boost to your sex appeal for your partner, too!

Tip #3^Just do it

Get started, even with a simple kiss, some spooning or a back rub. Nature will take it from there!

When you're tired and the day has worn you down, you will likely make up every excuse not to have sex. But once you get started, Kirsten says, your primal instincts will kick-in and overpower the tiredness. Since getting the motivation up is the biggest challenge, she recommends that once you're in bed, just push yourself to "get started, even with a simple kiss, some spooning or a back rub. Nature will take it from there!"

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