Posted: May 03, 2013 12:00 PM
 
Orgasm isn't a dirty word. Discover ways to overcome insecurities and get to know your body better. From masturbation tips to the truth about the G-Spot, we have the information you need to know to achieve the Big O.

According to the National Institutes of Health, as many as half of women aren't happy with how often they reach orgasm. Some women have never had an orgasm. Others have in the past but struggle to reach orgasm alone or with a partner. We talked to experts about how to increase a woman's chances of achieving the Big O.

Don't rely on intercourse alone

As many at 70% of women need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm.

"A majority of women (in some studies, as many as 70 percent) need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm," says Charlie Glickman, PhD, AASECT Certified Sexuality Educator. "That means that intercourse alone might not work. Fortunately, a woman or her partner can use their fingers or a vibrator to add a little extra clitoral pleasure and make orgasms easier." You're the best judge of what helps you reach an orgasm, but don't feel like you have to achieve one during intercourse. "Every woman's sexual response is unique and nothing works the same for everyone," says Dr. Glickman. "So the more you can tell your partner about what you like, the easier it is to have a great time."

Try the G-Spot

The G-Spot is an erogenous zone a couple of inches inside the vagina, on the frontal wall.

Think the G-Spot is a myth? Think again. If you haven't considered stimulating this area, you may be missing out on a way to enhance sexual satisfaction. According to Dr. Glickman, it's easier to find and stimulate this area if you're already aroused. "The G-spot is an erogenous zone a couple of inches inside the vagina, on the front wall. You're looking for an area about the size of a dime or nickel that feels firmer than the surrounding tissue. It might feel rougher, too. It's a lot easier to have a partner find it than to manage it on yourself." There's no foolproof way to stimulate this area during intercourse, so experiment with positions to see what works for you and your partner.

Clear your headspace

If the children need to be asleep, take care of that. Turn off the cell phone and TV.

Melissa Jones, PhD, Personal Sexuality Education Consultant, says that women have a tendency to multi-task, even in bed. Distractions can seriously impede the ability to enjoy sex and have an orgasm. "If the children need to be asleep, take care of that. Turn off the cell phone and TV," says Jones. "If you know that a noise may distract you, turn on some music or a sound machine to help cover the barking dog. There is nothing more frustrating than getting to the pinnacle of a great orgasm and getting distracted!" Give yourself plenty of time and don't try to rush yourself. Be open with your partner, who should not be rushing you in any way either.

Fly solo

Don't be discouraged if you struggle to reach orgasm even through masturbation.

To enjoy sex and orgasms, you need to understand and appreciate your own body. Get to know your body through exploration and masturbation, however you feel comfortable. This will also help you communicate your needs to your partner. Don't be discouraged if you struggle to reach orgasm even through masturbation. "When a woman is having a hard time orgasming I always recommend a good toy," says Jones. "Toys are never a replacement in a relationship, they are an enhancement." Look for waterproof toys that can be used in the bathtub for added relaxation. Don't forget to use lubrication even when you're alone. There's nothing wrong with needing a little more lubrication than what your body naturally provides.

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