You're responsible for your own thoughts, right? Well, unless you're a teenage boy attending the Richmond Homeschool Prom, then the way a girl dresses and moves can totally control you.
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If you go to a prom and obey the dress code, would you expect to get kicked out because your dress is too short? Unfortunately, that's exactly what happened to a 17-year-old girl who was told that her dress and behavior were deemed too provocative and she was asked to leave prom.

Booted from the prom

A 17-year-old girl named Clare wrote an in-depth piece on her sister's blog about her experience at the Richmond Homeschool Prom, detailing how she had made sure that her dress followed the outlined dress code (fingertip length), yet she was repeatedly told her dress was too short from the moment she walked in until the moment she was kicked out.

According to her post, despite demonstrating many times how her dress fit the dress code, she was told that it was too short — she estimates that it looked short because she is tall and has long legs, so things tend to look shorter on her than those with a smaller stature.

But it didn't end there. Soon, a prom organizer pulled her aside and told her that the dads who were chaperoning the dance (who were perched above, looking down from a balcony) complained that she was dancing too provocatively and, combined with her short dress, could cause the teen boys present to have impure thoughts.

She writes, "At this point I said to her that I hadn’t been dancing at all! Much less seductively, and that even if I had been being inappropriate, they should issue a warning instead of just kicking me out. Then she proceeded to reiterate that my dress was too short and that I was going to have to leave. I again showed her and the lady with her that the dress met dress code standards."

Unfortunately, her argument fell on deaf ears and she was asked to leave, forcing her party to also have to leave.

Wait a second

So, to sum it up, a teenage girl was kicked out of prom because her dress fit the dress code and she wasn't even dancing. Right? Does this make any sense at all? It actually sounds like the dads present were ogling her and realized that she looked good, perhaps "too mature" for her age, and this just wasn't OK because the boys had no control over their thoughts and feelings. So it makes total sense to ask her to leave, even though she wasn't doing anything wrong.

Not only does this send the ridiculous message that girls are responsible for the thoughts and feelings of their male peers, but it doesn't give the boys any credit whatsoever, like they are mindless beings controlled by other people.

Not only does this send the ridiculous message that girls are responsible for the thoughts and feelings of their male peers (and even actions — think about the, "She asked for it!" defense of rape), but it doesn't give the boys any credit whatsoever, like they are mindless beings controlled by other people. I would love to know how this girl's appearance at her prom could possibly negatively impact a teenage boy. Really.

Perhaps, the truth is that it really was the complaining dads who couldn't handle her appearance themselves, and in voicing their discomfort, they dumped the blame on this girl and her male peers. It's unfair, it's upsetting and it's shameful. Let kids be kids, and don't creep on the girls who you're supposed to be watching over.

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