Posted: Mar 28, 2013 11:00 AM
 
I went from never wanting to get married or having kids to marriage at 22 and a completed family by 29. Now that I'm 40, I am beyond glad I chose to have my kids when I was younger, for many reasons...

Young moms have an easier time conceiving

Women are usually most fertile from their early 20s until their early 30s.

I write a lot of articles about fertility issues and am so glad I never had to go through anything like charting my cycles, taking my temperature or timing, well, baby-making time. It was very easy to get pregnant, even after I had endometriosis and my doctor told me to give it six months to a year before I would likely conceive. The stick turned pink immediately. Was it because I was 25? I'm not sure, but I bet it had something to do with it, as women are usually most fertile from their early 20s until their early 30s.

Being a young mom is less risky

While there's never any guarantee a mom and baby won't have a health issue, I'm glad to have skipped the amnio, being lumped into the advanced maternal age category or increasing certain risks to my babies.

No, I didn't give up my dreams

As for the argument that older moms get to live their lives and reach their dreams before having kids, while younger moms, like me, see career paths derailed? I don't buy it.

Now that I'm getting older, I can't imagine being pregnant or taking care of a newborn 24/7.

I did what I set out to do professionally before I was engaged, let alone pregnant. When I decided to leave my past career in work-til-all-hours-of-the-night Hollywood television production, it was by choice, not because having a baby would have held me back. And having my babies inspired me to change careers and become a childbirth educator, doula and writer.

Now that I'm getting older, I can't imagine being pregnant or taking care of a newborn 24/7. Luckily, I get my baby fix by hanging out with my friends' and neighbors' babies. But then, I get to go home and hang out with my awesome older kids.

Growing up with my kids

We have always been the youngest parents at school, which is odd to me since I think having babies at 25 and 29 is pretty common. My parents were 24/25 and 26/27 when they had me and then my sister. I love being a young mom.

It's hard to believe my first baby is a freshman in high school who is already telling me which colleges he's interested in. My second (and last) baby is in fifth grade and thinks he's in high school. In about seven years, my husband and I will be empty-nesters and still in our 40s. I may soon have a mid-life crisis, but I won't be changing diapers!

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